What's in a name? (Divorce)

After a marriage ends should the woman go back to her maiden name even if she has children? What are your thoughts?

Permalink Reply by William E Graham on June 30, 2009 at 6:07pm: If she has a decent relationship with her ex she should consider keeping her married name. The kids might feel disconnected if she chooses to change her name from theirs. If and when she remarrys then at that point the kids would have been used to the idea that "Mom" has stared a new life and I think would be more willing to accept a new name in addition to a new man in her life.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Shevon Mann on June 30, 2009 at 6:13pm: I feel the same way. I have been divorced for awhile. My ex and I have a good relationship. He out of the blue asks me to change my name because I wont reconcile with him. It's crazy. I plan on getting married again and I would like to change my name at that time.

William E Graham said:
If she has a decent relationship with her ex she should consider keeping her married name. The kids might feel disconnected if she chooses to change her name from theirs. If and when she remarrys then at that point the kids would have been used to the idea that "Mom" has stared a new life and I think would be more willing to accept a new name in addition to a new man in her life.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jacqueline L Wellington on July 10, 2009 at 9:37am: If you have children, I say by all means keep your married name.... you will be called by it anyway by your children's teachers and friends. If you do not have a good relationship with the ex then you can always change it when the kids are grown or you remairry.

My main reason for giving my daughter my name and not her father's is because I didn't want to be called Mrs. Robinson because her last name would have been Robinson..... Yes.... I could have been Jackie Robinson... LOL; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Shevon Mann on July 10, 2009 at 11:22am: That's my point too Jackie. Jackie Robinson LMBO! I have contacted the clerks office to change my name. Now it's going to cost me money as well as being an inconvenience....

Jacqueline L Wellington said:
If you have children, I say by all means keep your married name.... you will be called by it anyway by your children's teachers and friends. If you do not have a good relationship with the ex then you can always change it when the kids are grown or you remairry.

My main reason for giving my daughter my name and not her father's is because I didn't want to be called Mrs. Robinson because her last name would have been Robinson..... Yes.... I could have been Jackie Robinson... LOL; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Orletta E Caldwell on July 10, 2009 at 11:32am: The entire reason I didn't change my name back after the divorce is because of my daughter. I felt that it was important that we maintain a similar family name for her sake. If I were to remarry which I don't plan to until she is out of high school I would consider the change.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Wali Paul on July 13, 2009 at 3:36pm: Many women keep their Family name(The name of their Father) thats how it is in many cultures and religions...; ▶ Reply to This